💯 It’s only maladaptive when it has a negative impact on your life. It’s just like any addiction like food. You have to have food to survive, just like your brain needs daydreaming. It’s finding the balance to turn it into healthy mechanism rather than pulling you away from life. I personally use daydreaming to write my stories. I write down what I visualize. I don’t feel like I have any deeper daydream but I can understand the attachment to it. A lot of people would demonize people for this while spending 10 hours on their phones scrolling and ignoring their spouses. We all have our demons. ❤️❤️❤️ you are doing great taking about it this is important for people to hear!
I recently discovered the term maladaptive daydreaming. I was high key devastated because it made me feel ashamed. The only real escape I had. On the brighter side it did help me realize I should be more present in life. Now that I know what it is I use it sparingly and less shamelessly these days. Thank you for sharing !
It is definitely hard. The name is like "wow this perfectly fits me but apparently it's a problem," which makes it hurt a little. I don't think it's something to be ashamed of. It's a coping mechanism and also a form of entertainment. Like anything, it feels bad when you do something that's a detriment to your real life, but I think that shame is something that always gets in the way of healing. I hope you can find peace with the fact that you maladaptive daydream. Also, you are not alone and if you ever need someone to talk to, my DMs are always open.
Yes, I had always thought my daydreaming was something no one else could touch or disturb. It has always been the one thing that has soley been mine to do as I please and feel how I want to feel unapologetically. Once I found the term it was like being called out of my movie theater. Had to swallow the reality pill which is always hard on the healing journey! I appreciate you and same as well, my DM’s are a safe space for everyone <3
I totally feel this, "It has always been the one thing that has soley been mine to do as I please and feel how I want to feel unapologetically." I think the fact that it belongs to me allows me to have the freedom to create that I don't always feel with writing. I have so much going on and I think about what others will think for good or bad when I write, but when I create on my own nobody can stop the pure flow of creation. Reality pills are so difficult, I tend to find myself stuck in a denial loop when it comes to them. If only I could just accept things and move forward.
Always correct me if I am wrong, please. Everyone’s journey is different and their own to walk. Outside world’s idea of expectations make it even harder when we have to factor in our own feelings, wants, desires, etc. It’s probably why we lean into the daydream aspect because we are in control and choose not to let the outside noise in because they would interrupt the dream. If you are forcing yourself to swallow something and accept something. It comes down to comfort levels and perspective. I always refer to a reference of that the same ideology can be told to 10 different people, but each one may need to hear it in a different way to understand better. The most important part about everything I just said. You are doing the work. It shows. If no one has told you recently I am proud of you. You are doing as great as you can. Keep going and can’t wait to see what’s next. Society is overrated anyway ;)
Yeah, I definitely think a big part of my attachment to my daydreams is the aspect of control. I feel like I lack so much control in life that it is so calming to know what is going to happen. I agree that different people need to hear things in their own way. I imagine there will be a time when the correct words are said to me that help me move forward, but I will do my best with what I have in the meantime. Thank you so much, you have shown so much kindness to me today, and it really makes me feel better.
Thank you. I agree that it's all about balance and it is something that I've been trying to achieve. I really should reframe it as something good, but I know I'm also likely addicted to it, which is hard to admit. I really appreciate your advice and comment though!
Thank you so much, those words mean a lot. I do my best to be as honest as possible in these blogs. I always want to connect with people and make them feel less alone. Im glad this resonated with you.
💯 It’s only maladaptive when it has a negative impact on your life. It’s just like any addiction like food. You have to have food to survive, just like your brain needs daydreaming. It’s finding the balance to turn it into healthy mechanism rather than pulling you away from life. I personally use daydreaming to write my stories. I write down what I visualize. I don’t feel like I have any deeper daydream but I can understand the attachment to it. A lot of people would demonize people for this while spending 10 hours on their phones scrolling and ignoring their spouses. We all have our demons. ❤️❤️❤️ you are doing great taking about it this is important for people to hear!
I like the honesty here... )
Thank you!
I can deeply relate to this!
Thank you, I'm glad it resonated with you!
I recently discovered the term maladaptive daydreaming. I was high key devastated because it made me feel ashamed. The only real escape I had. On the brighter side it did help me realize I should be more present in life. Now that I know what it is I use it sparingly and less shamelessly these days. Thank you for sharing !
It is definitely hard. The name is like "wow this perfectly fits me but apparently it's a problem," which makes it hurt a little. I don't think it's something to be ashamed of. It's a coping mechanism and also a form of entertainment. Like anything, it feels bad when you do something that's a detriment to your real life, but I think that shame is something that always gets in the way of healing. I hope you can find peace with the fact that you maladaptive daydream. Also, you are not alone and if you ever need someone to talk to, my DMs are always open.
Yes, I had always thought my daydreaming was something no one else could touch or disturb. It has always been the one thing that has soley been mine to do as I please and feel how I want to feel unapologetically. Once I found the term it was like being called out of my movie theater. Had to swallow the reality pill which is always hard on the healing journey! I appreciate you and same as well, my DM’s are a safe space for everyone <3
I totally feel this, "It has always been the one thing that has soley been mine to do as I please and feel how I want to feel unapologetically." I think the fact that it belongs to me allows me to have the freedom to create that I don't always feel with writing. I have so much going on and I think about what others will think for good or bad when I write, but when I create on my own nobody can stop the pure flow of creation. Reality pills are so difficult, I tend to find myself stuck in a denial loop when it comes to them. If only I could just accept things and move forward.
Always correct me if I am wrong, please. Everyone’s journey is different and their own to walk. Outside world’s idea of expectations make it even harder when we have to factor in our own feelings, wants, desires, etc. It’s probably why we lean into the daydream aspect because we are in control and choose not to let the outside noise in because they would interrupt the dream. If you are forcing yourself to swallow something and accept something. It comes down to comfort levels and perspective. I always refer to a reference of that the same ideology can be told to 10 different people, but each one may need to hear it in a different way to understand better. The most important part about everything I just said. You are doing the work. It shows. If no one has told you recently I am proud of you. You are doing as great as you can. Keep going and can’t wait to see what’s next. Society is overrated anyway ;)
Yeah, I definitely think a big part of my attachment to my daydreams is the aspect of control. I feel like I lack so much control in life that it is so calming to know what is going to happen. I agree that different people need to hear things in their own way. I imagine there will be a time when the correct words are said to me that help me move forward, but I will do my best with what I have in the meantime. Thank you so much, you have shown so much kindness to me today, and it really makes me feel better.
Wishing you a soft landing in due time, Aetherias Moon 🚀✨
Thank you. I agree that it's all about balance and it is something that I've been trying to achieve. I really should reframe it as something good, but I know I'm also likely addicted to it, which is hard to admit. I really appreciate your advice and comment though!
Thank you so much! I'm glad my intent came across!
Thank you so much, those words mean a lot. I do my best to be as honest as possible in these blogs. I always want to connect with people and make them feel less alone. Im glad this resonated with you.